| Sometimes lovers and husbands are a mystery. | | | | why not indulge yourself. Maybe he is just seeing |
| One moment, they can be the sweetest, most | | | | you in a special new light...it might not be so |
| loving, individuals on the planet; happily laughing | | | | bad...then again, it may be just his way of dealing |
| away at some silly thing on TV, and the next | | | | with some unspoken stress. |
| they're in a dark and gloomy mode; brooding and | | | | Sometimes it helps to interject a little humor into |
| sullen; or even hurtling insults and accusations. Of | | | | tense situations. Although, I doubt that he will |
| course you didn't do anything to start it...that | | | | appreciate any "jokey" jabs you make at his |
| rarely matters. | | | | expense; it's not a bad idea, to play the good guy |
| Figuring out why guys snap into these moods can | | | | in this situation and try to coax him out of the |
| be like trying to do caluculus in your head....close to | | | | bad mood with a bit of levity. Just remember to |
| impossible, and ultimately a waste of time. | | | | keep your objectivity if you decide to stick |
| Because before you know it, he's renting a DVD, | | | | around to ride it out (your choice, you know him |
| popping your favorite buttered snack, and | | | | better than anyone); don't get roped into name |
| offering to massage your feet while to two of | | | | calling; the blame game; the crying game, or |
| you snuggle on the couch for the evening in front | | | | playing the victom or martyr. |
| of a romantic comedy! | | | | Doing so will only land you dead center ring face |
| The real trick is getting from here to there, from | | | | to face with an angry sumo like opponet who |
| ugliness to sheer bliss without being drawn into an | | | | doesn't mind taking the gloves off for a little dirty |
| all out war of the words! | | | | fighting. |
| You can do this by keeping in mind that he is only | | | | Keep your cool...leave the room...leave the |
| human and most likely dealing with some internal | | | | house....start dinner....turn on some soothing jazz |
| struggle that has nothing at all to do with you | | | | (music truly does soothe the savage beast...let it |
| (regardless of what he says). | | | | work it's healing powers on your man); do |
| You can also try reframing his unexpected and | | | | whatever it takes to stay emotionally seperated |
| often unpredictable behavior in a new and comical | | | | from the situation. |
| light...it'll help you to stay above the fray just long | | | | Distract him...pop in a video, turn on the TV; put |
| enough to let him realize what a dufus he is being! | | | | on a bikini...do what you have to do to snap him |
| Later he'll appreciate your cool facade and aplomb | | | | out of it. |
| as he clumsily confesses the truth behind his | | | | For more quick ideas on how you can instantly |
| strange behavior and pitifully begs for your | | | | defuse a sticky situation; calm a lover and stop an |
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| testy; unruly; stubborn or hard headed; cranky or | | | | Avoid confronting him verbally...since you won't |
| otherwise childish behavior. | | | | actually be dealing with him, but the problem and |
| They'll help you weather unexpected mood | | | | situation that he is secretly facing inside his own |
| swings and unfair outbursts, so that you don't get | | | | brain. |
| roped into yet one more non-sense argument or | | | | Most guys face their problems alone; internalizing |
| discussion. | | | | on-the-job harrassment or other work related |
| 1:) He has recently seen a "Shrek" marathon, and | | | | problems; traffic irritations; in-law woes, etc., until |
| is just doing his best ogre impersonation for your | | | | these events bubble over into their relationships. |
| benefit. I know that you'll be tempted, but try not | | | | Keep in mind, that an outside influence, i.e. one of |
| to giggle as you imagine him turning a lovely | | | | your ex-boyfriends, one of his ex-girlfriends, your |
| shade of green. | | | | mom or dad, or other person who is skilled at |
| 2:) Personality stealing aliens have secretly | | | | pushing his buttons, may be behind his recent |
| switched your regularly sweet and sensitve man, | | | | change in behavior. |
| with an insensitive oaf, and are merely conducting | | | | Sometimes well meaning parents and "best |
| an experiement to see if you notice the | | | | friends" can do severe injustice to your happy |
| difference. | | | | home by working against your best interest |
| 3:) Call the Inquirer! Your man is officially the first | | | | behind your back. |
| guy to truly experience PMS first hand, complete | | | | Try to root out the cause or culprit, if possible, |
| with splitting migraines, cramps, bloating and oh | | | | (after his sour mood has lifted) so that it doesn't |
| yes, the dreaded hormones. Pull out the hot | | | | damage your relationship. If another person is at |
| water bottle, some advil and a sad tear jerker | | | | the root of his newfound problems, he will more |
| movie. It's going to be a long week of bonding. | | | | than likely hand them over to you on a silver |
| 4:) He has temporarily swapped brains with an | | | | platter. |
| insensitive time traveling cave man from | | | | Whatever the cause, he should snap out of it by |
| prehistoric times. Your sweetie can't help it. Men | | | | himself within just a little bit...guy moods don't last |
| of yester year, weren't always held to the same | | | | forever... |
| modern day behavior standards. Most times it | | | | When he does, he will want to talk about |
| was considered just good enough to survive. How | | | | it...apologize; cry; grovel... |
| can he be expected to act like a gentleman, when | | | | Try to be the bigger person; try to forgive, or at |
| he'd rather be out swinging a club and chasing | | | | least confess that you've had a few bad days |
| down an antelope on foot! In his mind, he is acting | | | | too. |
| in a perfectly acceptable manner. Refuse to get | | | | Chances are, there is a logical explanation as to |
| drawn into his cave man drama. Go for a run | | | | why he has been acting so weird. |
| instead. | | | | Be there. Listen. Offer support and hugs. |
| 5:) He's practicing for the role of the boogey man | | | | If he apologizes; if he accepts the blame, or at |
| in a remake of Rosemary's baby. This one might | | | | least pinpoints the culprit and promises to reform, |
| turn out as hideously for you as it did for the last | | | | try to move on...there's no sense in dragging him |
| Rosemary. Put some distance in between you and | | | | through the mud for having a bad day. |
| devil man, before permanant damage occurs. | | | | If he's a jerk, you probably wouldn't have stayed |
| Later he'll grovel and crawl back...claiming not to | | | | with him this long....chances are, it's a one time |
| remember the horrible things he said. Possessed | | | | thing that he regretted saying the moment it was |
| people rarely do! | | | | out of his mouth...give him a redo...a second |
| 6:) You show up at the breakfast table dressed in | | | | chance...if he deserves it... |
| a ratty old nightie and he eyes you like you're the | | | | Look, we all make mistakes... |
| last pork chop on the buffet table, and he's the | | | | A little generosity of spirit and sensitivity now, can |
| starving man, who hasn't had a meal in weeks. | | | | work in your favor, the next time you find |
| His odd mood manifests itself as a desire to | | | | yourself in the middle of one of those horrid days |
| make love more often. If you're in the mood, | | | | that just won't quit. |