| Sometimes lovers and husbands are a mystery. | | | | not be so bad...then again, it may be just |
| One moment, they can be the sweetest, most | | | | his way of dealing with some unspoken stress. |
| loving, individuals on the planet; happily | | | | |
| laughing away at some silly thing on TV, and | | | | Sometimes it helps to interject a little |
| the next they're in a dark and gloomy mode; | | | | humor into tense situations. Although, I |
| brooding and sullen; or even hurtling insults | | | | doubt that he will appreciate any "jokey" |
| and accusations. Of course you didn't do | | | | jabs you make at his expense; it's not a bad |
| anything to start it...that rarely matters. | | | | idea, to play the good guy in this situation |
| | | | and try to coax him out of the bad mood with |
| Figuring out why guys snap into these moods | | | | a bit of levity. Just remember to keep your |
| can be like trying to do caluculus in your | | | | objectivity if you decide to stick around to |
| head....close to impossible, and ultimately a | | | | ride it out (your choice, you know him better |
| waste of time. Because before you know it, | | | | than anyone); don't get roped into name |
| he's renting a DVD, popping your favorite | | | | calling; the blame game; the crying game, or |
| buttered snack, and offering to massage your | | | | playing the victom or martyr. |
| feet while to two of you snuggle on the couch | | | | |
| for the evening in front of a romantic | | | | Doing so will only land you dead center ring |
| comedy! | | | | face to face with an angry sumo like opponet |
| | | | who doesn't mind taking the gloves off for a |
| The real trick is getting from here to there, | | | | little dirty fighting. |
| from ugliness to sheer bliss without being | | | | |
| drawn into an all out war of the words! | | | | Keep your cool...leave the room...leave the |
| | | | house....start dinner....turn on some |
| You can do this by keeping in mind that he is | | | | soothing jazz (music truly does soothe the |
| only human and most likely dealing with some | | | | savage beast...let it work it's healing |
| internal struggle that has nothing at all to | | | | powers on your man); do whatever it takes to |
| do with you (regardless of what he says). | | | | stay emotionally seperated from the |
| | | | situation. |
| You can also try reframing his unexpected and | | | | |
| often unpredictable behavior in a new and | | | | Distract him...pop in a video, turn on the |
| comical light...it'll help you to stay above | | | | TV; put on a bikini...do what you have to do |
| the fray just long enough to let him realize | | | | to snap him out of it. |
| what a dufus he is being! | | | | |
| | | | For more quick ideas on how you can instantly |
| Later he'll appreciate your cool facade and | | | | defuse a sticky situation; calm a lover and |
| aplomb as he clumsily confesses the truth | | | | stop an argument dead in it's tracks, go to: |
| behind his strange behavior and pitifully | | | | 50 Secrets of Blissful Relationships! |
| begs for your forgiveness. | | | | |
| | | | Avoid confronting him verbally...since you |
| Here are a few new ways to explain your | | | | won't actually be dealing with him, but the |
| lover's testy; unruly; stubborn or hard | | | | problem and situation that he is secretly |
| headed; cranky or otherwise childish | | | | facing inside his own brain. |
| behavior. | | | | |
| | | | Most guys face their problems alone; |
| They'll help you weather unexpected mood | | | | internalizing on-the-job harrassment or |
| swings and unfair outbursts, so that you | | | | other work related problems; traffic |
| don't get roped into yet one more non-sense | | | | irritations; in-law woes, etc., until these |
| argument or discussion. | | | | events bubble over into their relationships. |
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| 1:) He has recently seen a "Shrek" marathon, | | | | Keep in mind, that an outside influence, i.e. |
| and is just doing his best ogre impersonation | | | | one of your ex-boyfriends, one of his |
| for your benefit. I know that you'll be | | | | ex-girlfriends, your mom or dad, or other |
| tempted, but try not to giggle as you imagine | | | | person who is skilled at pushing his buttons, |
| him turning a lovely shade of green. | | | | may be behind his recent change in behavior. |
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| 2:) Personality stealing aliens have secretly | | | | Sometimes well meaning parents and "best |
| switched your regularly sweet and sensitve | | | | friends" can do severe injustice to your |
| man, with an insensitive oaf, and are merely | | | | happy home by working against your best |
| conducting an experiement to see if you | | | | interest behind your back. |
| notice the difference. | | | | |
| | | | Try to root out the cause or culprit, if |
| 3:) Call the Inquirer! Your man is officially | | | | possible, (after his sour mood has lifted) so |
| the first guy to truly experience PMS first | | | | that it doesn't damage your relationship. If |
| hand, complete with splitting migraines, | | | | another person is at the root of his newfound |
| cramps, bloating and oh yes, the dreaded | | | | problems, he will more than likely hand them |
| hormones. Pull out the hot water bottle, some | | | | over to you on a silver platter. |
| advil and a sad tear jerker movie. It's going | | | | |
| to be a long week of bonding. | | | | Whatever the cause, he should snap out of it |
| | | | by himself within just a little bit...guy |
| 4:) He has temporarily swapped brains with an | | | | moods don't last forever... |
| insensitive time traveling cave man from | | | | |
| prehistoric times. Your sweetie can't help | | | | When he does, he will want to talk about |
| it. Men of yester year, weren't always held | | | | it...apologize; cry; grovel... |
| to the same modern day behavior standards. | | | | |
| Most times it was considered just good enough | | | | Try to be the bigger person; try to forgive, |
| to survive. How can he be expected to act | | | | or at least confess that you've had a few bad |
| like a gentleman, when he'd rather be out | | | | days too. |
| swinging a club and chasing down an antelope | | | | |
| on foot! In his mind, he is acting in a | | | | Chances are, there is a logical explanation |
| perfectly acceptable manner. Refuse to get | | | | as to why he has been acting so weird. |
| drawn into his cave man drama. Go for a run | | | | |
| instead. | | | | Be there. Listen. Offer support and hugs. |
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| 5:) He's practicing for the role of the | | | | If he apologizes; if he accepts the blame, or |
| boogey man in a remake of Rosemary's baby. | | | | at least pinpoints the culprit and promises |
| This one might turn out as hideously for you | | | | to reform, try to move on...there's no sense |
| as it did for the last Rosemary. Put some | | | | in dragging him through the mud for having a |
| distance in between you and devil man, before | | | | bad day. |
| permanant damage occurs. Later he'll grovel | | | | |
| and crawl back...claiming not to remember the | | | | If he's a jerk, you probably wouldn't have |
| horrible things he said. Possessed people | | | | stayed with him this long....chances are, |
| rarely do! | | | | it's a one time thing that he regretted |
| | | | saying the moment it was out of his |
| 6:) You show up at the breakfast table | | | | mouth...give him a redo...a second |
| dressed in a ratty old nightie and he eyes | | | | chance...if he deserves it... |
| you like you're the last pork chop on the | | | | |
| buffet table, and he's the starving man, who | | | | Look, we all make mistakes... |
| hasn't had a meal in weeks. | | | | |
| | | | A little generosity of spirit and sensitivity |
| His odd mood manifests itself as a desire to | | | | now, can work in your favor, the next time |
| make love more often. If you're in the mood, | | | | you find yourself in the middle of one of |
| why not indulge yourself. Maybe he is just | | | | those horrid days that just won't quit. |
| seeing you in a special new light...it might | | | | |