Left work to be a stay at home mom . . .So why do you feel like you are missing out?

Left work to be a stay at home mom . . . sointroverted than I'd like to be, so I became more
why do you feel like you are missing out?involved with school functions, field trips etc.
If this sounds like you read on. If this sounds likeWorked on developing more that a nodding
someone you know, share it.relationship with the parents of my sons friends
I, like many stay at home moms, often wonder ifand eventually actually had something to talk
I did the right thing. Yes, I know, staying at homeabout with them each time we ran into each
to raise my family could never have been theother, and I actually knew them by name. That
wrong choice, but I often wonder what wouldwent a long way to getting me out of my
happen if I'd be forced back into the workingintroverted self and outwardly I felt people were
world, due to some unforseen tragedy.much more responsive to me as well.
I left a very well paying position as a managerLastly, I decided that it was time to try and start
with a highly respected retirement investmenta business of my own. As I said, I did not want
firm three years ago. This was a decision myto work in an office, I really liked my freedom
husband and I had made eight years prior withand my new found creativity that I hadn't known
the birth of our son. We had already been raisingexisted (or hadn't allowed to exist) before my
a daughter and she was eleven at the time.latest revelation. I began by talking with friends
Never needing to take significant amounts of timewho were entrepreneurial in spirit. Some took the
to travel back and forth from work, and havingodd job/ handyman approach, some were
decent day care was what got us through thosecontractors and one is even a published author!
years. But, having moved into a country setting(You can visit her web site at the address below,
and having available resources few and farbut be sure to come back and see me.) All were
between, not to mention the two hour commutegetting by and staying active in the working world
each day for both of us, the decision was madeon their own terms. I looked into sales such as
to put our resources into making a stay at homeparty goods and home decorations and found
opportunity feasible.that I just wasn't passionate about those items
Well, needless to say, it took eight years to makeand that just wasn't for me.
that happen. With my husband starting a newHowever, sometimes the best things come out
company and my ability to make a decent salaryof the blue and that's what happened to me.
providing the jumping off point, all that was leftI was speaking with my mother about making
was to take the plunge. At that point, I couldn'trootbeer. She made it when we were kids, by
have been happier, but with each passing season,actually digging the root from a tree (or bush) . . .
I began to see myself as less and less valuable . .not sure. Well anyway, she couldn't remember
. Can you imagine?what kind of root it was and I entered a search
Here's where I realized that, by depending solelyfor root beer and stumbled onto Watkins Online. I
on my husband, and staying out of the workwas intrigued with the products. When I realized it
force I was losing control of my life. I was missingwas a work-at-home opportunity, I was doubly
something or missing out somehow. But, insurprised, since I had just recently decided to try
making this frightening assessment, I also cameand get something started.
to understand who I really was and what I reallyAs I dug deeper into the Watkins story and the
wanted. I love being home and taking care of mycompany background, (bb reports, message
family, I never wish to go back to working 50+boards, Winona local news, etc.), I realized that
hours a week and I certainly do not want tothis looked like a solid company, with good
work in an office environment again. So how did Icommunity ties, good ethical background and
go about making some positive changes?management, and a great product line to boot!
First, I took a look around me and at the peopleWell, I got off track and never found the answer
and relationships I most admired. It turned outto my rootbeer question, needless to say. But
that I had lost contact with many of thoseI've found a way to incorporate my desire to
people, and began to make a conscious effort torekindle relationships, make new and lasting
make time for them and include them in my lifefriendships and feel productive without taking time
again as well.away from my family. These things are the most
Then, I looked at my friendships that had stoodimportant aspects of my life and I'm glad that
up over time, and realized that I really didn't haveI've been given the opportunity to gain some
many friends who I would call close, but still hadinsight into my own needs and actually do
those who were a pleasure to spend time with. Isomething about satisfying them. Hopefully,
also realized that I'm not a "girlfriend to gosharing my experience will help others to find out
shopping with" kind of gal, so I wasn't missing outwhat exactly it is that they are missing in their
there but I still felt that I was a bit morelives and make some positive changes.