Wedding Customs Throughout History From Bridal Party To The Origin Of Engagement And Wedding Rings

The origin of the members of the bridal partyThe origin of the engagement and weddings rings
During the marriage-by-capture era, the loyalAS far as can be discovered, the wedding ring
tribesmen and close friends of the groom withinoriginated in the days of the caveman in a cord
the tribe aided him to invade the enemy territoryof reeds with which the man bound himself to his
to capture his bride. While he dashed off with her,wife's waist in order to make their spirits one. The
his friends stayed behind to fend off or fight theEgyptians, it is thought, introduced the first metal
bride's outraged relatives. Such were the firstfinger rings which were probably made of gold. In
ushers and best man.Egyptian hieroglyphics a circlet indicated eternity.
The maid-of-honour and the bridesmaids, as theyThe 9th century Christians began using the
are known today, can also be traced backwedding rings which have continued to the
through the centuries to Saxon England. Thepresent.
senior among them would attend the bride for aThere is a legend that the first wedding ring was
number of days before the wedding. She wasmade of iron adamant by Tubalcain for
especially responsible for the making of the bridalPrometheus. The iron symbolized lastingness, the
wreath, the decorations for the wedding feast,adamant perfect concord.
and for dressing the bride. Related forerunners ofThe early Romans used iron wedding rings.
today's bridesmaids were the guards whoAmong the poorer English, even as late as the
protected the maiden from capture. Other19th century, it was customary to use the ring at
examples of the use of "bridesmaids" were thethe Church keep. And today, when a very poor
ten witnesses required by the Roman marriageIrishman cannot buy a wedding ring, he rents one!
ceremony.The Puritans forbade rings as they considered
The flower girls and ring-bearers of moderntheir use pagan.
weddings are a vestige of the fertility ritesEngagement rings followed much the same
practiced by many different peoples. The bridepattern through the years as wedding rings. The
was often accompanied by a little child who wascave man first plaited grass or rushes around the
supposed to symbolize a fruitful union.ankles or wrists of his chosen bride. These were
The origin of the processionalawkward, and were abandoned in favour of
The origin of the processional has clearlystrands of grass tied around the finger of the
developed from the ancient and medieval weddingbetrothed.
processions. Among the Athenians, the ceremonyIt is said that the earliest allusion to engagement
began with morning offerings to Zeus and Hera,rings in Christian literature is in Tertullian's writings
and especially to Artemis, who was not, we areat the end of the second century A.D. The
told, in favour of marriages. Then, at nightfall, theRomans are credited with introducing engagement
bride was conducted to the bridegroom's house.rings to the ancient Germans and there is
She rode in a chariot, drawn by a pair of mules,reference to them in the law of the Visigoths in
and was seated on a couch-like arrangement642 A.D.
between her husband and one of his close friends.Even the inscriptions in wedding or engagement
As the bridal procession advanced, it was greetedrings had their source in former centuries. As far
and joined by friends carrying nuptial torches andback as 400 B.C., the Greeks had dedications
singing songs.inscribed in their rings, while medieval French
In medieval times, the processional was especiallysuitors were especially fond of the practice.
colourful. Gaily dressed minstrels sang and piped atThe ring ceremony of past times was interesting.
the head of the procession. Next came a youngDuring the ceremony, the ring was placed upon
man bearing the bride-cup, which was a chalice orthe open book. The clergyman then sprinkled it
vase of silver or silver-gilt, decorated with gilt,with holy water and blessed it. Then the groom
rosemary and ribbons. Then the bride walked,picked it up with the thumb and first two fingers
attended by two bachelors, and a dozen or soof his right hand and placed it upon the bride's
knights and pages. Next came maidens carryingthumb, saying, "In the name of the Father." He
bride cake, followed by girls with garlands ofthen transferred it to the first finger, saying, "And
wheat. The bridegroom then appeared, led byof the Son." Next he changed it to the second
two maidens, and walked in the midst of his closefinger as he said, "And of the Holy Ghost." Finally
friends, including his "best man." The relativeshe placed it upon her third finger with "Amen." It
walked after him, and these were followed bydid not seem to matter whether the ring was
less intimate friends. Finally, at some distance andplaced on the bride's right or left hand. Sometimes
appearing to have no concern in the festivities, orit was placed on the right at the espousal and on
ceremony, appeared the bride's father!the left at the wedding.